Friday, 18 February 2011

Love is in the Air by Keta Diablo + Giveaway

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These past two weeks it hasn't snowed, the weather has warmed and everyone started hoping - with baited breath - for the arrival of spring. I fear it might still be a bit further along, but don't you just love those small clues signaling that winter is over: how the days are lengthening, that it is still daylight when you leave work, that the air is warmer and soon the scent of flowers will be on the wind. Oh I can't wait for more sun and a bit warmer weather. But until then read the post of my guest of today: Keta Diablo, you could win a great read to warm your still chilly nights! ;-) 


Love Is In Air...
by Keta Diablo 

"If spring came but once a century instead of once a year, or burst forth with the sound of an earthquake and not in silence, what wonder and expectation there would be in all hearts to behold the miraculous change. "
~Henry Wadsworth Longfellow~

The Four LovesAbout this time of the year (winter for many of us) I begin to look for signs of spring. I'm lonesome for the sunshine, my flower garden and the balmy air of summer. Winter is a time when the world around us hibernates, recedes into its own cocoon of rest and replenishment. But winter also holds the promise of spring, a season of hope, renewal and love. Imagine for a moment that the thick, sturdy trunk of a tree symbolizes love and its branches represent the four major aspects of love. C.S. Lewis defines them as Affection, Charity, Friendship and Eros in his book The Four Loves.

Journey with me as we explore Lewis's definitions; think about how love has touched your life. And imagine spring, a time when hope, charity, friendship and Eros blossom for you again on the wings of new beginnings.


Affection is fondness through familiarity, especially between family members or people who have otherwise found themselves together by chance. It is described as the most natural, emotive, and widely diffused of loves: natural in that it is present without coercion; emotive because it is the result of fondness due to familiarity; and most widely diffused because it pays the least attention to those characteristics deemed "valuable" or worthy of love and, as a result, is able to transcend most discriminating factors. Ironically, its strength, however, is what makes it vulnerable. Affection has the appearance of being "built-in" or "ready made", says Lewis, and as a result people come to expect, even to demand, its presence-irrespective of their behavior and its natural consequences.


Friendship, a strong bond existing between people who share a common interest or activity. Lewis explicitly says that his definition of friendship is narrower than mere companionship: friendship in his sense only exists if there is something for the friendship to be "about". He calls Companionship or Clubbableness a matrix for friendship, as friendship can rise in the context of both. Friendship is the least natural of loves, states Lewis; i.e., it is not biologically necessary to progeny like either affection (e.g., rearing a child), eros (e.g., creating a child), or charity (e.g., providing for a child). It has the least association with impulse or emotion. In spite of these characteristics, it was the belief of the ancients that it was the most admirable of loves because it looked not at the beloved (like eros), but towards that thing because of which the relationship was formed. This freed the participants in this friendship from self-consciousness.


Charity is the love that brings forth caring regardless of circumstance. Lewis recognizes this as the greatest of loves, and sees it as a specifically Christian virtue. The chapter on the subject focuses on the need of subordinating the natural loves to the love of God, who is full of charitable love. Lewis states that "He is so full, in fact, that it overflows, and He can't help but love us." Lewis compares love with a garden, charity with the gardening utensils, the lover as the gardener, and God as the elements of nature. God's love and guidance act on our natural love (that cannot remain what it is by itself) as the sun and rain act on a garden: without either, the garden would cease to be beautiful or worthy. Lewis warns that those who exhibit charity must constantly check themselves that they do not flaunt, and thereby warp this love.


Eros is love in the sense of 'being in love'. This is distinct from sexuality, which Lewis calls VENUS, although he does spend time discussing sexual activity and its spiritual significance in both a pagan and a Christian sense. He identifies eros as indifferent. This is good because it promotes appreciation of the beloved regardless of any pleasure that can be obtained from them. It can be bad, however, because this blind devotion has been at the root of many of history's most abominable tragedies. In keeping with his warning that "love begins to be a demon the moment it begins to be a god", he warns against the danger of elevating eros to the status of a god.

Ah, Eros, the "sense of being in love". For centuries, men have fought wars over love, i.e. Helen of Troy, the woman whose face launched a thousand ships. And what about the scandalous love triangles between King Arthur, Guenevere and Lancelot, or Anthony, Cleopatra and Caesar?

Here's hoping you find bundles of love this spring, whether it's formed on friendship, charity, affection or the most potent of all, EROS.


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Keta writes for Decadent Publishing, Noble Romance, Phaze Publishing and Amber Quill Press. You can find her on the Net here:

Author Home: Keta's Haunt
Romance Blog: Keta's Keep

Watch for her new release Sojourn With a Stranger coming to Amazon Kindle in March of 2011.

Rating: Erotic Romance/Historical/Paranormal

Penniless when she arrives in Norfolk, her mother and father drowned at sea, Raine Brinsley longs to return home to her grandfather in Maine. When Derek Stafford, owner of a large plantation, offers a solution to her dilemma, she’s stunned, if not outraged. She’d prefer to fulfill the contract to have his child and forget about him and his self-serving scheme. If only she could dispel the deep-seated passion he’s awakened in her.

Derek Stafford’s only wish is to father an heir to Stafford House, thus securing his future. He didn’t count on the Scottish lass with green eyes interfering with his well-laid plan. After one night in her arms, guilt, not to mention the loss of his soul, becomes his penance. He’ll do anything to win her back, anything to quench the hunger tormenting his soul.


Keta generously offered an ebook copy of the winner's choice from her backlist.

To be entered all you have to do is:

1. fill out the main form so I have your contact info (just once, if you have already filled it out for a previous giveaway that's enough)

2. Leave a comment/question for Keta, share with us your favourite legendary love triangle or epic couple. .

Giveaway is open worlwide and ends on Friday 4 March 2011.

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