Saturday, 12 February 2011

Why Smart Women Love Alpha Males by Kristie Cook + Giveaway

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Today I have the great pleasure of welcoming in Kristie Cook's person not only a wonderfully friendly author to Ex Libris, but also the author who penned Promise (which was one of my favourite reads of 2010) and its sequel Purpose, which tell an epic Romeo and Juliet kind of love story (hopefully with a happy end) in a fantastic setting.  The hero in Kristie's novels, Tristan is the epitom of alpha hero: he is brave, couragous, strong, charismatic and I could go on, so no wonder Tristan inspired Kristie to muse on the subject. Please give the warmest welcome to Kristie Cook and tell us your thoughts, you could win! 

Why Smart Women Love Alpha Males
by Kristie Cook

We’re intelligent, educated and independent adults. We prefer books over mind-numbing TV. We enjoy a good conversation about things that matter. We’re fully capable of supporting ourselves. We’re smart women. And we love strong, sexy, hot heroes.

We enjoy alpha males who take control of a situation, protect us and kick the living crap out of the bad guy. We like bad boys who will break all the rules, especially for our benefit. We swoon over the gorgeous hottie with six-pack abs and arms of steel—wrapped tightly around us, of course. We want the guy who will save the day and look good doing it, too…even if he’s a decade or two younger than us.

At least, in our fiction we do. In real life—not so much. Imagine actually living with the alpha male who takes charge of everything and feels the need to constantly swoop in and lead the way…when you’re doing perfectly fine on your own, thank you very much. Or dealing with the bad boy who’s always getting in trouble and we’re constantly bailing him out. Or the brooder who can’t get over his past or the hot guy who, in real life, is an arrogant jerk and takes twice as long as we do in front of the bathroom mirror. Or…gasp…the 17-year-old kid!

We’re generally not cougars and definitely not child molesters. We don’t appreciate every challenge being taken away from us or every problem solved for us. We want someone we can talk to, laugh with, trust, work with and depend on. We want to be in a partnership with mutual respect. And that includes respect for our intelligence and independence.

Of course, we want all of these in our fiction heroes, too, but, unlike our fiction heroes, we don’t care if the guys in our lives are goofy or nerdy or shouldn’t ever even think about posing for an underwear ad. We want him to run away screaming from a mugger instead of risking his life by trying to beat him up. We want real guys in our real lives.

So why do we love our alpha males, bad boys and YA heroes? Because they are part of the escape that reading brings us. They let us enjoy the idea of being with them, even if we really wouldn’t want to be or never could be. We put ourselves in the heroine’s shoes and live her life for a while to get away from our own. She’s in situations that we’d never realistically be in—bad guys trying to kill us or kidnapping our loved ones or trying to blow up the town or take over the world. And the hero is the guy she needs at the time. We see him through our heroine, falling for him because of what he does for her…and for what he does for us. Because he gives us at least a short time to enjoy the fantasy that we’re her, with him. If we get giddy just thinking about him because he’s so hot, the escape is even better.

It’s okay to get a fangirl crush on these guys who you’d run from in real life. In fact, I know I’m not alone in saying that, as an author, I hope you do fall in love with my hero, even if he is an alpha-bad boy with a horrible past who looks like he’s about 22 and should definitely be an underwear model. It means I’ve done a good job in making him realistic enough but not too real, relatable and likeable. And that I’ve also done well with connecting you with my heroine in such a deep way that you feel what she’s feeling. After all, when we become someone else in another world with a guy completely different than our own, we’ve achieved the ultimate escape. And that’s the joy in reading.

Thank you, Stella, for letting me take over your blog for a little while!

What do readers think? What fiction hero would you never fall for in real life? Are there any that you would want to marry? I’ll start and they’re both YA, a couple decades younger than me!!! I have a fangirl crush on Jace (The Mortal Instruments Series), but he would drive me absolutely insane in real life; and I could definitely be with Peeta (The Hunger Games Series), who’s sweet, caring and self-sacrificing—the marrying type. Of course, I might marry my own Tristan, but only if he kept the good qualities and never picked up the arrogance and self-absorption like most real-life guys with his looks…and he didn’t care that I’m not exactly fit and beautiful like him. Okay—your turn.

Kristie Cook is a lifelong writer in various genres, from marketing communications to fantasy fiction. Besides writing, she enjoys reading, cooking, traveling and riding on the back of a motorcycle. She has lived in ten states, but currently calls Southwest Florida home with her husband, three teenage sons, a beagle and a puggle. She can be found at

Purpose (Soul Savers Series)Lost in despair, Alexis teeters on the edge of an abyss, her lifeline of hope fraying into a thin thread. If it snaps, she’ll plunge into complete darkness. With the help of her son and her writing, she’s been able to hold on. Until now. Erratic impulses, disturbing delusions and her own demonic blood threaten her sanity. When she’s forced to choose between hanging onto hope or letting go to serve her Amadis purposes, she faces a decision with inconceivable sacrifices.

Alexis runs to the one place she thinks will provide answers, only to find herself at the center of another battle of good versus evil, not only with the Daemoni, not only within herself…but also against the worst opponent imaginable. But even if she wins, what will she lose


To include international readers Kristie generously offered an ebook copy of Purpose (Book #2 of her Soul Screamers series) to a lucky commentator.

Purpose (Soul Savers Series)

To be entered all you have to do is:

1. fill out the main form so I have your contact info (just once, if you have already filled it out for a previous giveaway that's enough)

2. Answer Kristie's question and tell us what fiction hero would you never fall for in real life? Or are there any that you would want to marry?

Giveaway is open worldwide and ends on Friday 4 March 2011.

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